Not Funny: Humor as a High-Maintenance Defense Compared to Sublimation and Altruism

Individuals who prioritize humor as a primary trait in a partner may demonstrate a hedonic, short-term orientation toward relationships. While humor provides immediate enjoyment, stress relief, and social bonding, it relies on continual reinforcement and does not sustain long-term well-being. In contrast, partners exhibiting sublimation or altruism generate self-sustaining, purpose-driven happiness that supports enduring relational stability. Choosing humor over these defenses may indicate less developed self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and appreciation for eudaimonic well-being. Consequently, humor-focused choosers may be higher-maintenance partners and less reliable for long-term, resilient relationships.